Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.
Sounds obvious but it does not always happen. Especially in highly hierarchical organizations, people often think they get credit based on their power, not their actual contributions. And that is the crossing where all can go just wrong.
I think we all are responsible to change this — not just with our friends and family but in all the occasion, we face people. What we can do?
Pay attention at people around you, who you meet, your colleagues, people in your organization and give feedback. Make sure that the right people are getting the right credit for the right reasons at the right time. Be an explorer who want to find out the best out of everyone.
Credit team members for crediting one another. Good idea is to incentivize your team members to acknowledge and appreciate others’ contributions. This “expansion” of credit enhances team cohesion and trust, promoting more and better collaboration. Positive emotions expand our awareness and open us up to new ideas.
Crediting system that increases brain wellbeing
Very simple method to develop greater happiness and better self-confidence on others is to credit others. Create experiences for them, which help these good mental states become good neural traits. This is taking in the good: activating a positive experience and installing it in brain. You must be honest and truthful, fake won’t matter.
In my team at work, we are excited about brain wellbeing and our ability to increase it by our actions. We like to symbolically reward people who are for to credit. We have created rewarding system that supports brain wellbeing. The brain is the organ that learns, so it’s designed to be changed by experiences. What we repeatedly sense and feel is slowly but surely sculpting brain wellbeing. Positive feedback will leave an enduring imprint in our brains. Your mind is actually building your brain every day. So why not to have an influence on other peoples brain and brain wellbeing among creating the world the better place.
In my team, we have a certificate that says, “Well done”. You can receive the certificate whenever you have done something remarkable, or have finished something before deadline, or just survived trough a rough day, or just been adorable, kind and good to others. You can also give the certificate to yourself whenever you feel like it! Among the certificate, we also like to credit each other with spontaneous feedback for example by saying something as simple as “That was very great what you just said…”
Reflection in relationship has been described as a process that helps to turn experience into knowledge. We need more information where we are good at, what are our own strengths in someone else’s opinion. This way we can turn these experiences into knowledge and start to believe that we are good on something, we are capable on things that we are doing and we will have possibility to do more. To be able to be a reflective person who creates reflective atmosphere is not something we are born with, it is a learnable ability and it develops in discussions with other more advanced minds. It allows us to develop ourselves among it tempts us to continuous lifelong learning.
Thank you for inspiring me!
Good trustworthy feedback, credit what you have done or achieved motivates you, pushes you to accomplish the tasks you are expected to do. It also pulls you towards something that stirs your heart and mind. It gives you the feeling that will support you to get the best out of yourself. A reflective person is not afraid of other one’s wisdom and knowledge vice versa they celebrate the brains that they have in their company, they love to give the credit for the ones it belongs to.
When we are filled with inspiration we don´t need external motivation to move forward, we will move forward. So why not to inspire each other’s, to get the best out of everyone. I get highly inspired by trustworthy feedback. It melts my heart and builds my self-confidence. I love to learn from others as well I’m happy to give feedback and credit to others.
The most important thing is that an atmosphere is created safe, where collective aspiration can be set free and we all are keen to learn from each other. This demands trust, believing and respect. Good, respectful relationship engages me to expand my thinking, to increase knowledge of what I might be lacking.
People with good basic trust are more likely to think optimistic and credits others. Basic trust is build in early interaction with a child and their care giver. It is an implicit trust that what is optimal will happen and a person believes whatever happens will ultimately be fine. It is the confidence that reality is ultimate good, and all that exists, are by their very nature trustworthy. Basic trust gives an implicit orientation toward all circumstances and that allows us to relax and see situations as learning opportunities.
As well as we can create optimistic learning atmosphere, we have huge impact on developing a basic trust if it´s needed. Basic trust can be developed in trustful and respectful relationship. We can reflect security, build trust and create permissive learning atmosphere where other people can relax, learn to act and be in securely attached in ways that are needed in life.
The more we create basic trust, optimism in people’s lives, the more process of transforming and realizing and becoming flows more smoothly. Building the basic trust can lead people to feel that they are good, valuable, worthwhile and lovable. Quite powerful!
As well as basic trust can be developed, optimistic thinking and crediting others is learnable. We know that the mind can be trained into new habits of thoughts and that those who learn optimism can obtain all of the benefits associated with that attribution style. In order to cultivate an optimistic thinking and crediting others, a person must work to change their pessimistic explanatory style to a more optimistic one and to be more willing to see other´s success.
Text Annele Heikkilä
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